Using your voice to set boundaries at a Szczecin workshop

A short sentence

Compare “please step back” with a long explanation of why you need more room. A partner can tell you exactly which words they heard. Try different volumes and choose language you would really use outside the training room. A phrase that feels awkward is a useful reason to try another one.

Words and movement together

In the next repetition, look at the space around you. Can you still see the exit while talking? Is a chair or another person in the direction you chose? This combines your voice with awareness of your surroundings. Because people respond differently, the exercise also includes ending the encounter.

Testing a boundary in a practice exercise

Start with a short sentence that fits the situation, such as asking someone to give you more space. With a partner, compare a very quiet delivery with a clear version of the same request. The aim is not theatrical confidence or shouting at any cost. Your partner should understand what you are asking for.
Afterwards, ask what they heard and whether the request was clear. Discuss the task without judging the person. Freezing under stress does not mean someone lacks character. If a boundary is ignored, a better sentence may not solve the problem. Practice should therefore also include ending the conversation and seeking support.

When words do not come easily

You can pause the scene and start again. Walk through it first without speaking, then add a sentence. In the debrief we ask what made the decision easier. Nobody is graded on volume or courage. The exercise gives you a way to explore your options and notice how much time you need.

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